How to tackle a Betrayal

How to tackle a Betrayal 

Until about fifty years ago, the betrayal, if done by a woman, was considered a real crime. The husband was entitled to the crime of blood and so could only regain his honor. Now things have changed, but the betrayal is still a terrible feeling but you can learn to control.
Instructions DIFFICULTIES 1
 

   1.How First, you must be sure that the betrayal in love is a fait accompli. You must not let the common jealousy take control without any grounds, for your well-being first. He also feels that always show clearly the partner had no confidence in it - especially without the doubts are well founded - does nothing but undermine the continuation of the relationship.
   2.Se have found evidence of the facts, please refrain from venting your anger and your pain before the traitor (or traitorous). All you should do is think about what has happened. What may have led to the betrayal? As he continued to pretend your partner? Pondering the circumstances it is not a form of masochism, but rather a clash with harsh reality can help to purify the dross of a story that should be considered closed.
   3. It may happen that the partner who betrayed him, once discovered, to repent and try a gesture of reconciliation.
      In the event that the two are not linked by family ties (marriage and children), the question is simpler and allows for the trade, if well aware of it, a position of command. The traitor must clearly demonstrate, much more than in the past, his love. The betrayed just have to ask the question of what it would be worse, that is to say goodbye to the former or the to resume a relationship with someone that has broken the bond of trust.
   4.In the event that the family ties are present we can not rely solely on their own feelings. In the presence of children is well to account their needs, not necessarily letting themselves be oblige to forget. If this proves the traitor really sorry, it should proceed with a separation that still allows children to attend both parents.
   5.Ma the fundamental problem in the case of treason is not rational. It forms a sense of emptiness, a deep disappointment. We find ourselves brooding memories of time spent with your partner and never seem to hurt as before. An initial period of pain, especially if it suddenly turns out, is normal and physiological. Spend some 'alone time with yourself is essential.
   6.Dopo loneliness, you should seek fresh air. Out with our friends, a new course, the change of job, a hobby, a sport, or any occasion, prospectuses, should be educated on the fly. Even if initially you do not feel the mood is good stretched to a new life. Especially if the relationship lasted a long time you should search for a new everyday.

As the thesis discusses the Separation With Sons

As the thesis discusses the Separation With Sons 

Deciding to put an end to their marriage, is one of the most dramatic moments in the life of a person. The pain of separation, it is comparable to the loss of a loved one ... Both those who leave and those who are left, sinks into a long period of sadness and depression.
Instructions
DIFFICULTIES 1

   1. Your child should never be involved in your personal problems with your partner, but often, the opposite happens, especially when we separate.
      The offspring often assists in furious disputes, acts of violence and anger and moments of anxiety and nervousness, which, inter alia, will not give an explanation if it is very small, and for which will be certainly very upset.
   2.Se the age of your child is appropriate, talk to him of the decision to separate, with his partner, asking the question with great serenity and simplicity, almost as if it were the most obvious thing in the world.
      Help your child to express his feelings about this painful experience, it makes you feel better.
   3.Sarebbe your child should continue to respect the rules and habits learned before the separation. Do not change anything in your attitude toward him and make with the partners to maintain the same attitude.
      If possible, make sure that it continues to live in the house ever. For him it is very important at this stage, do not be stressed out from further changes.